Did you know? According to the CDC, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience physical violence by their intimate partner at some point during their lifetimes. About 1 in 3 women and nearly 1 in 6 men experience some form of sexual violence during their lifetime!
What you need to know about creating a Safe Plan:
Planning for Safety:
Do not tell your abuser you are leaving. It may be difficult, but telling your abuser will increase the likelihood of injury or death. If you are able to, make a "go bag." You may need copies of keys, legal documents, medication, money, or a checkbook. This will allow you to leave in a hurry and have everything you need. If you have a go bag, hide it somewhere your abuser cannot find. Or give it to a trusted friend, family member or neighbor. If it is safe, have a code word with your children. If you say a word or phrase, your children will know what to do, or where to go. It is important to only share this plan with your kids if you are positive they will not tell your abuser. During violent outbursts, stay away from rooms with weapons or only one exit, like kitchens, garages, or bathrooms. Keep cash on hand in case you have to leave quickly, and keep at least a quarter of a tank of gas in your car. Try and have copies of your keys hidden in case your abuser takes your keys. Create a nonverbal cue you can share with a friend or neighbor. This may mean leaving a porch light on, open/closed curtains, text a code word, or something similar that signals that you need the police or some intervention.
The following items are important to have when you leave, if possible:
Social security, birth certificates, and other IDs Immunization records Public assistance cards/Medicaid cards Passports, green cards, work permits Money, checkbook, ATM cards, credit cards Medication and medical supplies Keys Car registration, insurance papers Divorce or separation papers Lease, rental agreement or house deed Car mortgage payment book Children’s toys, security blankets Your personal safety plan (if written down)
Crisis Hotline for Hope Haven 816-380-4663
What is Domestic Violence?
What is Domestic Violence?Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive and manipulative behavior used to control an intimate partner. There are four main types of abuse. Psychological
Breaking promises or agreements
Not taking responsibility for actions
Verbally attacking, and publicly humiliating partner
Attacking vulnerabilities (language, education, parenting skills, religion, or appearance)
Telling partner they are crazy, or undermining partner’s sanity
Withholding affection or approval as punishment, or to gain control
Threatening to leave, or telling partner to leave in order to manipulate behavior
Accusing partner of being unfaithful, or having affairs
Forcing, coercing, or pressuring partner to have sex, or do sexual acts
Calling partner sexual names
Inflicting injuries to sexual body parts
Denying partner access to contraceptives, or protection against STDs
Controlling all the money
Keeping partner from working
Forcing partner to support family alone and ruining her credit rating.
How you can help Hope Haven
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